Ep56 What Really Draws You In and Pushes You Away: Exploring Relationship Electromagnetism

What really attracts you to your partner, and what drives you crazy? The answer lies in the fascinating concept of relationship electromagnetism. Just as positive and negative charges attract in physics, our relationships operate under similar invisible forces that draw us together or push us apart.

Attraction goes far beyond physical chemistry. When someone's kind heart, engaging conversation style, or ability to challenge your thinking resonates with you, powerful connections form. But understanding what repels you is equally important – incompatible values, different cultural backgrounds, or conflicting communication styles can create distance between partners.

While "opposites attract" holds some truth initially, maintaining relationships between different personalities requires active effort. The magnetic pull you felt at the beginning naturally evolves as your relationship matures. Those quirky differences that once seemed charming can become sources of frustration without finding common ground through open communication, genuine empathy, and thoughtful compromise.

Your body often recognizes electromagnetic compatibility before your mind does. That gut feeling when you meet someone new? It's your physiology responding to the electromagnetic forces at play. Learning to interpret these physical signals can guide you toward healthier relationships and away from connections that drain your energy.

The five primary relationship needs – love/belonging, freedom, fun, safety, and power – interact like electromagnetic fields, creating patterns of attraction and repulsion. When one person's need for independence clashes with another's desire for closeness, the resulting tension can be understood through this electromagnetic framework. By identifying your dominant relationship needs and communicating openly about competing desires, you can find balance even during disagreemen

Welcome to the Better Relationships Podcast where Dr. Dar Hawks shares relationship tips and advice to help you be seen, heard, understood, and supported in your relationships.  Taking on tough topics and giving you hope, inspiration, and ideas to experiment with, Dr. Dar Hawks is passionate about creating healthier, happier, and harmonious relationships... 
Because when you are happy in your relationship, the world becomes a better place for all of us.

Welcome to the Better Relationships Podcast where Dr. Dar Hawks shares relationship tips and advice to help you be seen, heard, understood, and supported in your relationships.  Taking on tough topics and giving you hope, inspiration, and ideas to experiment with, Dr. Dar Hawks is passionate about creating healthier, happier, and harmonious relationships... 
Because when you are happy in your relationship, the world becomes a better place for all of us.

Chapters

• 2:00 Understanding Attraction & Repulsion in Relationships
• 4:52 Finding Common Ground for Sustainable Relationships
• 9:30 Attraction Beyond Chemistry: Power in Both Forces
• 13:58 Balancing Electromagnetics in Relationships
• 19:11 The Five Primary Relationship Needs
• 32:06 Navigating the Forces for Deeper Connection
• 47:05 Transforming Conflict into Harmony
• 52:21 Final Thoughts & Call to Action

Transcript

Speaker 1: 1:00

Welcome to episode 56 of the Better Relationships podcast. Today, I want to talk with you about what really attracts you to your partner and what repulses you, drives you crazy or even pisses you off the invisible forces of attraction called electromagnetism. The reason why I want to explain what electromagnet and what it means to you is because it will help you understand that, just like positive and negative charges attract each other, certain qualities in a partner can create a magnetic pull towards them or push you away from them and maybe even turn your stomach. Attraction is complex and it involves various aspects, such as physical, intellectual, emotional and even spiritual connections. Here are some qualities that can attract you to someone their infectious smile, their kind-heartedness, the way they create dialogue that draws you in, or even the way they challenge your thoughts and inspire you to expand your personal growth. These qualities actually create a sense of connection and draw you in.

Speaker 1: 2:24

But what pushes us away? On the other hand, there are certain behaviors or characteristics that can act as repelling forces in a relationship. Some common factors that can create distance include dishonesty, lack of respect, incompatible values, different cultural or religious beliefs, varying family dynamics where maybe your family operates very and vastly differently from your partner's family and even different career ambitions. These repulsive factors can cause stress and strain in any relationship. You may have thought, or be thinking, that opposites attract, but that only works for a little while In intimate relationships. There is some truth to the saying that opposites attract at the beginning the saying that opposites attract at the beginning. However, as the relationship matures and you try to draw closer together, the differences that once appeal to you may become the same ones that repel you if you both don't actively work on bridging those gaps and finding common ground. Because, let's face it, finding common ground is truly the key to sustainability and lasting happiness. The work of finding common ground is not always easy, but it is crucial for the sustainability and growth of your relationship. Here are just some strategies that may be able to help. Here are just some strategies that may be able to help Open communication, talking openly and honestly about your needs, desires and concerns in a calm voice, tone of voice, calm body posture and demeanor.

Speaker 1: 4:41

Empathy. Try to understand each other's perspective and validate each other's feelings instead of discounting them. Compromise, be willing to see their perspective, identify very clearly what your perspective is and then find ways to meet halfway to find solutions that work for both of you. You both actually win when you try to find common ground, and actually, when I coach couples, they initially feel like, oh, I'm losing and they're winning, but that's not really the case, because they're both getting a little bit or really halfway of what they want, as is their partner, and ultimately, that hybrid solution creates a better solution for both of you anyway, and most of the couples that I've worked with have found that to be the case. By acknowledging and addressing the differences that you have, couples can navigate through the challenges that you're faced with, and you can find a balance and common ground that allows you both to feel heard, valued and understood.

Speaker 1: 5:52

Make no mistake, though this is a learned skill, and I am trained in helping couples find common ground in even the midst of a simple small disagreement or argument within minutes, you know those things that drive you crazy over time, but you don't say anything about it, or something has been just really bugging you and you don't know how to talk about it, or you don't want to bring it up because it'll create tension or someone will get mad or emotionally upset or, worse, someone's feelings will get hurt. My art, my gift, is to help you do that easily and without a lot of upset. But so, believe it or not, there is power in both, in the attracting and the things that repel you or make you ill to your stomach or angry. Understanding electromagnetism from a positive and a negative charge perspective instead of an emotional perspective or a blame or criticism or over-analysis kind of way, will really help you build emotional maturity and intelligence. The process of embracing both the attractive and repelling aspects of a relationship can lead you to greater depth connection and ultimately a stronger connection between you and your partner connection and ultimately a stronger connection between you and your partner, by dedicating the time and effort to understand each other's perspectives, to find that common ground and to communicate clearly and effectively and cleanly. Cleanly meaning owning your emotions and upsets and reactions, calling yourself out on them in the moment and then putting them to the side and getting back to a calm, adult-like conversational environment. By doing all of that, couples can navigate your differences and cultivate a much deeper relationship where you both feel safe and supported and you both belong.

Speaker 1: 8:04

Relationships are dynamic. They require constant understanding and recognizing each other's nature, combined with nurturing and investment from both of you to maintain that magnetic pull. Ultimately, attraction goes beyond mere chemistry or that initial infatuation. It involves choosing to see the beauty in each other's uniqueness and embracing the challenges that come with it. In doing so, we not only grow individually, but also foster a love that is strong, resilient and enduring. This reminds me of the first episode of White Lotus I just watched, and there's a scene where this newlywed couple are sitting on the bed and the wife is appealing to her husband, stating that she doesn't want anything to change. She wants this love, attention and attraction to be the same, and they're committing to each other that they're always going to be that way.

Speaker 1: 9:07

The reality is that's not the case. The dynamics, energetics and electromagnetism that we have in the beginning of our relationship does not stay the same. It grows and evolves with you in your relationship and as life happens with you in your relationship and as life happens. That's why understanding these forces may help you navigate the complexities of attraction and repulsion in your relationship. It reminds you to cherish the qualities that attract you, while also being mindful of those blinking red flags that repel you. Think of electromagnetics as the glue that binds you or the invisible force that repels you from someone you care about Knowing what attracts and repels you in a partner, friend, family member or co-worker or manager can truly guide you towards creating a healthier, more fulfilling relationship, because you have the power to choose what and whom you let into your life and who you keep at a distance.

Speaker 1: 10:16

It's about recognizing the qualities that resonate with your own values, belief systems values, belief systems, personality and goals, and being aware of the behaviors or characteristics that are incompatible with your well-being. This self-awareness can help you build stronger connections with those who bring out the best in you and you in them, while avoiding toxic or draining relationships. By the way, clients that I've worked with over the last two decades have let go of toxic or draining relationships or chosen to truly transform them into healthy ones. It is interesting how electromagnetics create an intense chemistry-based attraction to people who are opposite from us. If you are a caring, compassionate, empathic person, there's a tendency to attract draining relationships, people who take from you, who drain your energy, or even, dare I say, narcissistic type personalities. The reason why is because of electromagnetism. This is why it's important for you to understand how it works and to experiment with it in your life. You can do it simply with walking into a buffet restaurant and paying attention to what energetically looks good to you and why. Diagnose and analyzing and unpacking Is it the smell, is it the look, is it the color, is it the texture, is it the sauce? All of that will help you understand how electromagnetism works within you. To check in on what you value in relationships, how healthy a specific relationship you have is or is not for you, or just to self-assess your needs in a relationship, or just to simply self-assess your needs in your relationship, I invite you to take my Are you Ready to Love and Be Loved? Quiz at quizzesdrdarhawkscom.

Speaker 1: 12:32

Now let's go deeper with understanding electromagnetism. It is one of the four fundamental forces of nature governing interactions between charged particles. Those charged particles can be positive, neutral or negative. It encompasses both the electric attraction and magnetic attraction fields, and it's responsible for a wide range of phenomena, from the behavior of atoms and humans to the functioning of everyday electronic devices and you guessed it humans. In essence, it describes how objects and humans can attract or repel each other based on their charge, and humans can pick up on this charge. And humans can pick up on this charge In human relationships. You can draw an analogy to this force by considering how you're drawn to one another or pushed away, based on emotional, mental or physical or environmental charges. These charges can be understood as the qualities you possess, your personalities, values, interests, mental and emotional states, your mood, your negative, positive or neutral charge that either creates attraction or repulsion. Let's talk about the attraction factor.

Speaker 1: 14:01

The positive charges. These consist of the positive charges that draw you in relationships or towards people or situations. In romantic relationships, attraction often resembles the behavior of opposite charges coming together, or positive charges coming together. When two individuals share common interests, values, moods, emotional states or things that are getting communicated that resonate positively in your entire body. With each other, they create a magnetic pull that draws them closer. This attraction can be seen in friendships as well, where people are often drawn to those who possess qualities they admire or aspire to have. These types of positive charges create a sense of connection, understanding and fulfillment in your relationships, and fulfillment in your relationships, much like the merging of opposite charges in electromagnetism. Here's the other side of that, though the repulsion factor. The negative charges, on the other hand, charges that repel each other. In electromagnetism, certain qualities or behaviors can create a repulsion between individuals as well. These negative charges can manifest as differences in values, incompatible personalities, conflicting emotional states or differences in family background or cultural backgrounds that feel really interesting at first. In relationships, these repulsive forces can lead to tension, conflict and, ultimately, the weakening or dissolution of the relationship or the connection.

Speaker 1: 16:11

It's important to become familiar of how these charges feel in your body, mind and spirit and to recognize the presence of these negative charges and address them through open communication, communication, compromise or finding common ground and understanding and also defining how you want this relationship to be. Is it something that you're going to spend a lot of time on? Is it a relationship that you occasionally want to interact with and be clear about the why? Why are you attracted to this person? Why do you want to get involved? You know, as I reflect in my earlier years, I would get attracted to all kinds of people because of how different they are or were for me. I also would get attracted to them because there were things that they would do or how they were being that I wanted to have more of in my life. But the truth is I wasn't paying attention to how my body was telling me whether this was a healthy relationship or not and I would dive right in get involved, be my giving empathetic, sympathetic, supportive self, and then one day, many months or years later, it would be an ugly breakup. This was true in work environments, friendships and even intimate relationships Until I embarked on understanding electromagnetism, which is why I'm bringing this topic to you, so that you can start experimenting and paying attention to what your body's telling you.

Speaker 1: 18:07

Your physiology will tell you what is healthy for you in the moment to the next moment, much faster than your thoughts, feelings or your emotions will. And if you don't feel like you're connected to the messages and the wisdom of your body, book a session with me. I can help you reconnect. Now let's talk about balancing these forces, because they're all around us, these negative, positive and neutral charges that you have the power to define, whether it's positive, negative or neutral, and your body will tell you whether it is a healthy thing for you or not. So, just as electromagnetic forces can be manipulated by simply adjusting the charge or the distance between objects, you too have the power to influence the dynamics and the electromagnetics of your relationships. The dynamics and the electromagnetics of your relationships. By cultivating self-awareness and actively working on your own growth personally, you can minimize those negative toxic charges and strengthen the positive ones.

Speaker 1: 19:22

I'd like to give you a simple example of how this works. Let's say you're having a conversation with your best friend, or with a family member, or with your life partner. It starts out being, you know, just a calm conversational time together. That's peaceful, and all of a sudden one person says something and the other person reacts. Something happened and an upset gets created. That is electromagnetism in action. And what happens is both of you will start reacting to the electromagnetics being felt in the moment, either through feelings, emotions or your thoughts.

Speaker 1: 20:11

In the moment, either through feelings, emotions or your thoughts, we may not be paying attention to what our body's telling us. Many of us have been taught is stay in the conversation, resolve it right away, don't go to bed with things unresolved. But the reality is, when your body is already activated and your mind and your conversation is with the negative charge, trying to resolve it while in that state of being is actually not healthy for either you or your partner or this other person that you're interacting with. It's important to just distract each other and say look, let's put that on the shelf, let's just go have some fun and enjoy each other's company. We will revisit that topic and unpack it later, when we're in a different mindset and state of being, because I promise you, it will look and feel very different two or three days later than it does in this moment, and you will have time for your body to unconsciously unpack it and give you additional information over however long a span of period. There is where you both take a time out from that topic.

Speaker 1: 21:26

Now let's talk about shared values and interests. Just as oppositely charged particles attract each other due to their complementary nature, because opposites do have complementary natures, individuals who share similar values and interests also tend to find themselves magnetically drawn together. For example, common goals. Couples who aspire to achieve similar life goals, such as family planning, career or financial aspirations, will often experience a stronger bond. However, as the couple spends time together, years, even we change. Human beings are not static beings. Our desires change.

Speaker 1: 22:19

I used to be very ambitious when I was younger. Now I care about peace and harmony, beautiful environments. Peace and harmony, beautiful environments, spending time with my chickens in the backyard, mowing my grass, gardening, tending to my vegetable garden. I didn't really care about all that stuff when I lived in the city and was focused on my career, so things do not stay static. Therefore, if you are getting into a relationship and you're attracted to each other based on current goals and similarity there, it's important to talk about future aspirations, 10, 20, 30 years down the road as well. Also, having mutual interests, engaging in shared hobbies or passions will create connection and intimacy because you're doing those things together. But I also want to add that it's extremely, if not more, important for each of you to maintain your own interests and hobbies and passions individually as well. A lot of my clients will put their all into the relationship and let go and sacrifice the things that they cared about because they're focused on building a family or focused on the children or the things that demand their attention have changed and they do not carve out time for their own interests. It's really important to do that on a weekly basis, even if it's 15 minutes a day or one or two hours a week. Now let's talk about emotional resonance.

Speaker 1: 23:55

Emotional states also play a very crucial role in attraction. Individuals who exhibit positivity and warmth often attract others who also seek those qualities. They want to be supported. They want to feel qualities. They want to be supported, they want to feel safe, they want to feel accepted. They want to belong. That is also true of individuals who don't exhibit positivity and warmth. There's also another possibility where positive and warm, caring giving people will attract the negative, woe-is-me type people in an attempt to help them. Those are the rescuers in our lives, and we've all met one or we all know one. That's a topic for another day. I just wanted to point out that there's also electromagnetism at play in that scenario as well. Here are examples Positive energy People are naturally drawn to those who exude confidence and joy. You just feel good around those people. Empathy you just feel good around those people. Empathy the ability to understand and connect emotionally, creates environments where love, kindness and caring about each other can flourish.

Speaker 1: 25:25

Now let's talk about the repulsion factor. Those negative charges, just like positive charges, attract each other. In physics, negative charges repel each other. Negative traits or behaviors can push individuals apart in relationships. Recognizing these factors is essential for maintaining healthy connections. Certain behaviors can act as repulsive forces within relationships. For example, jealousy can create tension and distance. Lack of communication leads to misunderstandings that can drive you apart. Emotional disconnection creates unresolved conflicts that can lead to resentment that distances you from one another and, later on, incompatibility those differences that you thought were really cool in the beginning, or differences in values because you're both changing in different directions and not focused on creating common ground. Those can create friction that ultimately drives couples apart.

Speaker 1: 26:32

One big one that I want to talk about that many couples are dealing with especially seniors and Gen Xers even some millennials definitely boomers is difference in political values, and it really is driving a wedge in today's authoritarian climate between couples who experienced or got attracted to an authoritarian, dictatorial figure, but now they are really wanting their freedom or they're now seeing their political values are really contrary to each other. If that's you and you're in a relationship like that, you truly are the perfect person that I would love to work with. You can book a session with me at sessiondrdhawkscom and I'd love to learn more about what's going on in your relationship and what those political or social disconnects are, to see if we can bridge them and find some common ground. Many couples are choosing to split because it's just too hard, too too hard to stay in the relationship. Just too hard, too too hard to stay in the relationship. However, I'd love to help and find some scenarios that may be of value to you. Even if you do decide to and choose to split up. It still is healthy to have a session so that you can part amicably and still maintain some sort of a healthy relationship.

Speaker 1: 28:10

Let's now talk about the role of electromagnetic fields that create connection. Just as electromagnetic fields surround charged particles, that then influences their interactions interactions human beings also create and generate emotional, mental and mood fields based on their experiences in the moment and interactions with each other. These fields of what I call energy fields shape how you perceive yourself and others and how you perceive your partners with it and within your relationships. So building healthy connections is very akin in human-to-human interactions to positive electromagnetic fields. Having open communication where you encourage honest dialogue about your feelings and expectations, providing reassurance and emotional support during all times, and creating shared experiences where you spend quality time together without your cell phone and without distractions, engaging in activities, all will promote teamwork, connection and collaboration. You also need to maintain balance in your relationships. That is essential to sustain attraction over time Chemistry that you thought you had in the beginning, what many of my clients called that spark. They have this expectation that the spark is going to be there no matter how long you are together as a couple, and that simply isn't the case. The spark also evolves as you get more comfortable in your relationship and more connected in your relationship and the need for that spark shifts and the need for that spark shifts. So respecting each other's individuality, allowing each other space for personal growth while also sharing in each other's personal growth and supporting each other will nurture the relationship and help maintain equilibrium. Also, addressing any conflicts that arise compassionately and constructively and resolving them by communicating healthily will prevent negative charges from building up over time will help prevent negative charges from building up over time.

Speaker 1: 30:48

There is also an electromagnetic dance of relationship needs. As a relationship communication coach and healer, I've observed how there are five primary relationship needs that truly interact very much like electromagnetic forces, creating patterns of attraction and repulsion in our connections. Let's explore how these forces play out in the context of needs in our relationships. Love and belonging as a primary relationship need. Love and belonging attracts through warm gestures, caring behaviors, affectionate words, quality time, a calm, caring demeanor, and you can just tell from a person's eyes that they are a kind giving person. Love and belonging as a need is repelled by withdrawal, emotional coldness, the silent treatment, rejection, criticism, over-analysis, lack of support and lack of emotional support. Love and belonging's electromagnetic signature actually creates a strong positive charge, when fulfilled, that draws people closer. Here's an example when Sarah shares her deep upset feelings about a situation that happened with her husband's mom and her husband Tom responds with understanding and empathy. Their connection strengthens like magnets drawing together. You can feel and see their hearts expanding and their care for each other deepening Freedom as a need.

Speaker 1: 32:43

Freedom attracts through respect for boundaries, supporting each other's individual growth and giving each other space and alone time. Freedom is repelled by control, possessiveness and manipulation. The primary relationship need of freedom's electromagnetic signature requires personal space and freedom for choices and time. Here's an example Mike feels suffocated when Lisa checks his phone constantly or texts him several times in an hour. This creates a repelling force that pushes him away. Despite their attraction, he will start to avoid his phone or avoid her texts.

Speaker 1: 33:34

Now let's talk about fun as a need and the electromagnetic effects of fun. Fun as a relationship need attracts through playfulness, lightheartedness, shared laughter and adventure. That's fun, not competitive. Fun is repelled by constant seriousness, criticism and negativity, and its electromagnetic signature creates lightness, lightheartedness, and it creates energetic bonds that spark joy, nifty and survival. The electromagnetics of it as a relationship need Nifty and survival attracts through reliability, consistency, creating a safe environment and protection. It is repelled by unpredictability, threats, instability or lack of safety, and its electromagnetic signature forms strong foundational bonds when you feel safe and secure in a relationship, no matter what. Here's an example Rachel's consistent support during John's job loss strengthens their emotional magnetic connection by creating trust and security. Magnetic connection by creating trust and security.

Speaker 1: 35:42

The power relationship need and electromagnetics attracts through mutual respect and shared decision making, as well as creating goals together and sharing ambition. It is repelled by dominance, submission and control as well on the healthy side side, and its electromagnetic signature requires a balanced charge or a balanced power between parties in the relationship, not power over one another. Here's an example when Alex and Patricia take turns leading projects, their power dynamic remains balanced and consequently attractive. If you'd like to learn what your dominant primary relationship need is, you can take the quiz now at needsdrdarhawkscom and then come back and re-listen to the electromagnetism dance of relationship needs that I've just shared with you. It will bring you more context and relatability once you know what your primary relationship need is that is dominant in your relationships.

Speaker 1: 37:15

Now I want to cover some common conflicts between the five primary relationship needs Freedom versus love and belonging. One partner's need for independence will clash with the other's desire for closeness and way more time to spend together, even resentment of their alone time being so much greater and higher than together time. It also creates opposing electromagnetic forces that could tear the relationship apart. So freedom and love and belonging really need to create structure and a schedule for together time that is not rescheduled or canceled. Power versus safety the drive for control will conflict with the need for security and safety. It also produces unstable electromagnetic fields that will fluctuate between attraction and repulsion, fun versus survival, spontaneity and adventure can clash with stability and routine and can result in competing electromagnetic charges that can create tension. Love versus power. The desire for unconditional love can conflict with the need for control and it results in competing electromagnetic charges that can create electromagnetic interference that will disrupt the harmony in the relationship.

Speaker 1: 38:56

This is a pretty deep topic that I would love to work with you on. We can identify what your dominant, primary relationship need is and that of your partner, and then in your first session we can talk about the electromagnetics using real live examples from your own relationship in a confidential way. I'm not going to share it with the world. I'm not going to share it with anyone. I'm just going to be talking with you about it and show you some ways to truly manage the electromagnetics in your relationship. You can get started by going and taking the Relationship Needs Quiz at needsdrdarhawkscom and booking your session with me at sessiondrdarhawkscom.

Speaker 1: 39:47

Now let's talk a little bit more about balancing the electromagnetic forces. For you to maintain sustaining healthy relationships, you really ought to recognize each person's needs and the unique energy of that need that is being communicated in the moment, as well as your dominant and least dominant need, and you can do that by taking the quiz and identifying your dominant and least dominant and your least dominant relationship need at needsdrdarhawkscom. That's needsdardhawkscom. You can also balance the forces by respecting the natural push and pull between the different needs and each other, and when you're feeling the push and pull, maybe take a time out, go do something fun together and revisit the topic or the conversation at a later date. What I find is that couples try to resolve the argument when they're in the argument, and rarely does that turn out in a way that both parties walk away completely fulfilled and satisfied. You can also communicate openly about competing needs and then you can find creative solutions that honor multiple needs simultaneously. By finding common ground, you can also maintain awareness of your own and your partner's energy fields and what the electromagnetics are communicating to you, but letting them know here's what I'm feeling, or seeing that your electromagnetics are telling me. Is that the case? Because we can confuse the messaging from the other person? Because we're filtering what we're seeing and feeling and sensing through our own filter system, which is a whole nother topic that I will go into in another day. But when you and and regardless when you understand these forces and relationships, you can better navigate complex dance of human connection in the moment and choose to create stronger, more resilient bonds that will honor all five primary needs as you're becoming aware of them in the moment.

Speaker 1: 42:24

Understanding how electromagnetism works can teach you a lot about human relationships. This is what I'm trained to do. Just like charged particles, positive qualities draw us together and draw us in, while negative actions and behaviors push us away and create stress and angst. By using this knowledge, you can improve your relationships. To create strong and lasting connections, it's important to focus on shared values, open communication, empathy, respect and the outcome you desire. But what we do instead is hyper-focus and analyze on the thing that didn't feel good, the thing that we didn't like, the hurt feelings and, honestly, that doesn't bring out feeling great about ourselves or that relationship. These factors will help you develop healthy relationships based on attraction instead of conflict and tension and stress and hurt feelings. By understanding and applying these principles, you can overcome these challenges and you can build deeper connections. Ultimately, understanding the parallels between electromagnetism and human relationships can provide insights into how you navigate connections with others. By recognizing the role of attraction and repulsion in shaping your relationships, you can strive for harmony and balance in your interact, in your interactions in any given moment. By being aware of the behaviors, what is being the mood or the sensation or energy that your body's picking up on, that repel you much like charged particles, or that also attract you, you can navigate your romantic connections and other connections more effectively.

Speaker 1: 44:37

It is important that you understand what your values are, and values tend not to change over time in our adulthood. They do tend not to change when you're solid in them. So if you'd like some help in identifying what your values are, book a session with me are. Book a session with me sessiondrdarhawkscom. Another one of my arts is really to listen and ask questions about things that you value in your life and your relationships and feel into who you are energetically and electromagnetically, and whether they are in alignment or out of alignment with who you truly are, and helping you synthesize and identifying four or five values that you then, along with your dominant primary relationship need, can align your life towards and use those instead of your mental filters in order to make decisions or discern what's best for you or not. So, emphasizing those values open communication, empathy and respect are all keys and things that thrive on mutual attraction rather than conflict. Conflict diminishes those things rather than conflict. Con diminishes those things. Ultimately, harnessing these invisible forces allows you to build deeper relationships with your partners while fostering a love that endures no matter what life throws you.

Speaker 1: 46:14

Also, to build emotional intelligence and emotional maturity. To build emotional intelligence and emotional maturity, it's important to be aware of your own emotional triggers and reactions and your electromagnetic signature. The way I do that with my clients during their sessions is we will role play situations or use examples from your own life of things that went well, things that didn't go well, things that felt good or things that felt horrible, in order to help you develop that self-awareness that will then help you understand why, what's the real reason you feel repelled or attracted by certain behaviors or qualities in others, and it will show you and allow you to respond in a more balanced and empathetic, self-honoring and self-respectful manner, instead of avoiding or creating conflict. Additionally, developing your skill of reflective and active listening can greatly enhance your ability to connect with others on a deeper level. Quite often people and I get that I'm generalizing, but quite often people will equate listening with taking action or listening with full agreement, and that's not the case. We're truly just hearing each other and listening to each other and accepting each other, but not necessarily the topic. So it's really important for you to separate and communicate very clearly that you're accepting what they're saying, but not taking it on or agreeing with it. By truly hearing and understanding their perspectives or each other's perspectives and needs, you can cultivate an environment of trust and mutual respect.

Speaker 1: 48:05

While the laws of electromagnetism may govern the physical world, they also impact, influence and create valuable lessons for navigating the complex environment and landscape of human relationships. By embracing the principles of attraction, repulsion and balance, you can cultivate fulfilling and harmonious connections with those around you, even in the midst of conflict and tension, and I can show you how to shift conflict and tension to harmony very quickly. It's done by diplomatic distraction. I am going to take a moment to write that down so that I remember to create a future podcast about this topic To see how electromagnetics are influencing your relationship. I'm trusting that this was very interesting or intriguing to you.

Speaker 1: 49:21

I invite you to book a coaching session with me today at sessiondrdarhawkscom. I am known to provide laser coaching getting down to the heart of the matter in one session, and I invite you to be prepared before the session and bring at least three examples from your own relationships that we can unpack from the perspective of electromagnetism, tuning into your body and its physiology and messaging and the five primary relationship needs. Most of the times I have found that my clients get a sensation in their body but they don't really connect or hear the message that the electromagnetism is trying to convey, and I would love to help you with that and I would love to help you with that. I promise in this session you will take away at least three things that you can do to put more attraction into your relationship and life more receiving of feel-good electromagnetics and skills on how to shift things in the moment if conversation or the relationship is going into the tense, anxious or conflict state. Thank you so much for listening.

Speaker 1: 50:52

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