The Better Relationships Podcast

Ep49 10 Ways to Better Your Relationship Using Human Design

Dr Dar Hawks Season 10 Episode 49

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In episode 49 of the Better Relationships Podcast, Dr. Dar Hawks, The Relationship Healer, delves into the fascinating world of Human Design and how it can be used to enhance your relationships. Human Design is a powerful tool that blends modern quantum physics with ancient modalities like astrology, the Jewish Kabbalah, the Hindu chakra system, and the Chinese I Ching. Dr. Dar explains how understanding the energetics of your interactions, rather than focusing on individual faults, can lead to more harmonious and fulfilling relationships.

In this episode, Dr. Dar covers ten practical ways to better your relationship using Human Design insights. She discusses how to understand your own Human Design type and those of your partner, exploring the unique characteristics that influence relationship dynamics. She provides a breakdown of different energy types—Generators, Projectors, Manifestors, Manifesting Generators, and Reflectors—and how they interact in relationships.

Dr. Dar also explores Human Design profiles, defined and open centers, dominant and compromised channels, and electromagnetic channels, providing comprehensive insights into how these elements shape communication, emotional dynamics, and compatibility in relationships. She emphasizes the importance of empathy, open communication, and continuous personal growth, offering practical techniques to deepen your emotional bond and navigate conflicts with compassionate awareness.

For those interested in diving deeper, Dr. Dar invites listeners to create their Human Design charts and explore their relationship dynamics further. She offers resources and coaching sessions to help you understand and leverage your Human Design for a thriving partnership.

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>> Dr. Dar Hawks:

Welcome to the Better Relationships podcast. I'm Doctor Dar, the relationship healer. And today I want to share about a tool that I absolutely love using to help compassionate, heart centered women and their partners have a better relationship by looking at the energetics of their interactions instead of looking at the person and what's wrong with them. Today's topic is ten ways to better your relationship using human design. Human design serves as a powerful tool for understanding how to be seen, heard, understood, valued, loved and supported in your relationship. And not just the one with your partner, pretty much all your relationships. By analyzing human design charts, I have found that you can uncover the dynamics that actually shape the interactions between you and your partner. It's an energetic personality tool that provides guidance into your unique personality and that of your partner and of the relationship. Because when you get into a relationship, there is another identity that gets created that is often times taken for granted or not paid attention to. And that's what I call relationship dynamics. Human design is an energetic map showing you who you are and how you operate in your relationships and in your environments. It combines modern day quantum physics with ancient modalities of astrology with ancient modalities of astrology, the jewish kabbalah, the hindu chakra system, and the chinese I Ching. There's a lot more to it, but what I really love about it is how it is holistic. It brings many communities and many traditions and many methodologies from all over the world together into one system. And for me, that is very unifying. Put together into one system called human design, this personality tool creates acceptance for you. Bye. Leaning into and recognizing who you are at the core of your being. With that feeling of being welcomed home to your true self. When you comprehend how different energetic bodies interact, you can navigate your relationships with greater empathy and awareness. By using human design with individuals and couples, I have seen that we tend to attract people into our lives based on who we're not. That saying opposite attracts opposites. That saying opposites attract is energetically a thing. Like it's really a thing. But what happens is when we get attracted to other people based on who we are. Nothing. And based on who they are showing up as, because they're also behaving in many ways as who they're not, we then create problems because we're not seeing who we truly are and owning who we truly are. So in this article, I'm going to explore ten practical ways to enhance your relationship. Using insights from human design, I invite you to dive into these strategies to better understand yourself and your partner. To create a more harmonious connection. Let's start with understanding your own human design type. Recognizing and embodying your own human design energy type is the first step in bettering your relationship dynamics. Each type has unique characteristics that influence how you approach relationships and how you interact with your partner. Understanding, accepting and supporting each other's uniqueness or differences in each other's energetic type and that of your relationship will absolutely help you have a better relationship. Before I provide you with a breakdown of each type, let me share with you how you can find out what your type is. Your energetic type is you can click the button and you will go to a page that will ask you for your name, your birth date and where you were born and the time of your birth. That information is used to calculate and create your human design chart. It will give you what your type is and a lot more information that I'll be going through here after you've read this article and go grab your chart and then come back to this article to help you assess and understand your chart a bit better. Based on the details I provide here, the first energy type is a generator. They are known for their consistent energy and enthusiasm. They have fuel to keep going and going and going. It's pretty amazing to be in generator energy generators thrive in relationships where there's mutual excitement and engagement. They look for partners who appreciate their vitality and at times who can match their level of activity. You might be able to tell, as I share more about the other types, that when a generator or any, any of the types gets into a relationship with someone of a different energy type, there's collaboration and communication that needs to occur, and a lot of acceptance and supporting each other's energy type. Projectors excel at, guiding and leading and managing others in relationships. They value recognition and appreciation from their partners that actually lights them up and gets them motivated and into action. They also often need way more rest and downtime, which requires understanding and support from their significant other. Manifestors are natural initiators and leaders. They prefer relationships that allow them autonomy and freedom to act on their impulses. Partners to manifestors really need to respect their need for independence and their need to just go and get stuff done or, go and do something when the thought shows up and when the impulses show up and provide support to their manifesto. Partners in understanding who they are and their need for autonomy and freedom. The fourth type is a manifesting generator. Manifesting generators are a blend of generators and manifestors, combining the ability to respond to life with the power to initiate actions in relationships. Manifesting generators need partners who can keep up with their dynamic energy and adaptability, or who support it. They value flexibility and spontaneity, needing both freedom and stability from their partners. Fifth type is that of a reflector. Reflectors have a unique ability to mirror their environment in relationships. They provide incredible, profound insights, but also require stability and consistency from their partners to feel safe and secure. Their well being is closely tied to the harmony of their surroundings and their environments. So if you're in a relationship with a reflector, creating healthy, harmonious environments and surroundings and space is important. From my perspective, there's also a 6th type, and it's that of a relationship. It is a 6th energy type that gets created from the combination of two or more people's energetics that does not have a type or a name in and of itself, but will give you insights into areas of magnetism between the people. Areas where compromise is needed, ways to know how to leverage each other's strengths and what those are, cautions as to where dominating, controlling or manipulating behaviors could occur, and areas of harmonic compatibility. To me, the energetics between two people is very much like dancing. You want to be in sync in how you're communicating more often than not, so that dancing is fluid and joyful. You feel like you and your partner fit well together and belong together when you're in flow, when you're dancing, and you want to be able to learn the steps and body positions when you're not in sync, so that you get better together in that dance, that's what human design can do for you and your relationship. The second thing I want to share with you is about decoding you and your partner's human design profile. Human design profiles are an additional layer to your energetic personality that shapes how relationships work. Each profile is identified by numbers, like a one and a three, or a four and a six. The profile represents a mix of personality traits and life themes. When two profiles join together in a relationship, it creates additional strengths and challenges that can arise. The beauty of human design is it gives you the awareness of these strengths and challenges ahead of time or when you're in the midst of a relationship, wanting to understand your strengths and challenges and learn to leverage each other's strengths and collaborate to support each other with the challenges that show up through an understanding of, it's not personal, it's not about something wrong with either of you, and that it's just the energetics between you and that you can work on, that you can work with, that you can work together to figure out how to solve it. Now I'm going to share with you the key profiles and their dynamics. One and three. The archetype is the investigator that goes with the one and the martyr that goes with the three. The strengths are that they are deep researchers and they're extremely resilient in problem solving. They may actually very well be problem and solution focused. The challenges of the one in three is that they can take a while to make decisions because of the need for research. They can also be overly cautious and self critical. So if you're in a relationship with a one in three, give them time to research. Accept that their problem solving nature is a gift. And notice when they're being overly cautious, help them and support them by reducing or eliminating risk, or helping them with the research so that they feel more comfortable and safe. If you're noticing that they're being self critical, have a dialogue with them to help them see that what they're critical about may or may not be true. Give them examples of what they're criticizing themselves for, where they've demonstrated the opposite, or where they've demonstrated that what they're criticizing themselves for really isn't the case, because you can provide them with examples showing otherwise. The next profile is the four and the six. They are represented by the archetype of the opportunist. With the four and the six is the role model. Their strengths are natural leaders. By example, they excel in networking and community building. They really are about bringing people together and finding common ground. I am a four six. A, challenge that they deal with is that they may struggle with finding a balance between their personal aspirations and the societal roles that they serve in helping them find equality and embrace reciprocity would be a really great thing. If you're in a relationship with a four and a six, assisting them and working on yourself to become more of a role model and leading by example will go a long way. If you're, in a relationship with a four and six, the next one is a two four. The archetypes of hermit and opportunist. Their strengths are that they have natural talents that flourish in the right environment. They are strong social connectors when, and only when they choose to engage. One of their challenges is that they need alone time, and that can be misunderstood as aloofness. They also may have difficulty balancing solitude and social interaction. If you're in a relationship with a two and four, recognize them for their natural talents, help them create the right environments, and assist them with creating balance between their need for alone time and coming out into the world, spending time with you and with your community. The next one is a three. Five. The three represents the Martyr and the five the heretic. Their strengths are that they are practical problem solvers. They are adaptable, and they're always coming up with innovative and transformative ideas. One of the challenges with that, though, is they can be seen as disruptive or unpredictable. And they could face resistance when presenting new concepts. If you're in a relationship with a, three and five, know that they are transformation agents and they are here to solve problems and create transformation. So when they are interrupting or breaking things or saying things to create disruption, know that it's not personal. Know that they're just looking to create change and make things better, you may not see that there's a need for that and communicating in a way that lets them know, hey, I really appreciate you sharing this idea and I think it's really great. However, I don't see a problem with where we are right now. Can you share with me what you're seeing so that I, so that I can better understand this new concept you're sharing that creates a healthy dialogue, so that you can better understand where they're coming from. And you may surprise yourself. You may take on some of the things that they're sharing and you may not. And that's completely okay too. What matters is how you both communicate through it. The next profile is the five one. It's the heretic and the investigator. Their strengths are that they are visionary thinkers who can influence others through and in their research and preparation. A, challenge is that they have extremely high expectations from themselves and consequently from others. And that can lead to immense disappointment. They can also become isolated because of intense focus on their goals. If you're in a relationship with the five one, support their visionary thinking, support their research and preparation needs, and help them communicate their expectations to you. Because oftentimes they have these high expectations from themselves and others, but they're not communicating them and they're not creating agreement. And so that's why they get disappointed, because if it's in your head, people don't know about it and they can't help them get their needs met. So talking about needs, talking about the expectations on an ongoing basis, is a healthy thing to do with a five one. Also help them find balance by creating scheduled time where they're not isolated, focusing on their goals. They may resist that at first, but help them understand that it's actually for their benefit, so that they can take a break from their goals and a break from what they're wanting to create, and a break from their research and preparation, because that's going to help them rest and rejuvenate and also gain interactions from others, which is actually going to give them information in some way to help forward their goals. The next profile is the six two. It's the role model and the hermit. Their strengths are that they lead by example with wisdom and integrity. They have a blend of visionary leadership and deep introspection. A challenge, though, is that they can struggle with feeling misunderstood or isolated. Helping them learn how to and for you to create some sort of schedule with them that helps them balance their public life with their need for solitude will go a long way. And supporting them so that they have their solitary time uninterrupted is also a very healthy thing to do. Now I want to go through complementary and challenging pairings. These are just examples. They're not absolutes, they're not always true. I just want to give you an example so that you can better understand how profiles give you additional information about how a relationship works or doesn't work. Here's a complimentary example. M a one three profile paired with a four and six can create a relationship dynamic where the investigator deeply explores solutions. While the role model brings those solutions into the community. It requires collaboration and leveraging, each of the profile strengths. M here's a challenging example. Two profiles with strong leadership traits, such as a four six, with another four six, can face power struggles unless they develop mutual respect for each other's strengths. Understanding the profiles, as I've explained them earlier, will help you navigate relationship compatibility by appreciating how different characteristics interact. Recognizing that both complementary aspects and potential challenges actually helps you and enables you to create a harmonious, happy, and healthy relationship. And here's why. Most of the time, when we're in relationships and the challenges happen, we complain, we criticize, we judge, we don't really understand the mechanics behind those challenges. And human design will give you that. It will also show you what your strengths are in that challenge. And then you can start talking about your partner's strengths and your strengths, and where the challenge is creating an issue for the two of you. And from that conversation, it's not personal. No one's getting defensive, no one's judging each other. You're looking at your human design and the energetics and you're like, okay, well, now that we know that this is going on, what can we do to resolve it for us? Maybe it's the partner that has the strength in that area, takes the accountability and handles it. And you ask them to just keep you informed and updated on a regular basis, or vice versa. There are many ways to resolve challenges once you understand the mechanics and the energetics of it. The next thing I want to share with you about a human design chart is about exploring defined and open centers in your individual charts, but also in your relationship chart that shows the energetics of you and your partner together in one chart. Defined and open centers are crucial parts, truly of a human design chart that significantly affects how you interact and connect with your partner. So, what are defined in open centers? Defined centers are areas within the chart that show consistent energy patterns and themes. They represent aspects of your personality that are stable and reliable. You can always count on them. Conversely, open centers lack fixed characteristics and are more susceptible to external influence, making them areas where you can absorb and magnify energy from others. These are the areas in your energetic personality that are unreliable. They are inconsistent. So when you've had days where you feel like you're not grounded or you're unclear, and you feel like you're all over the place, it could be that you're picking up energy from outside of yourself and responding to it or reacting to it. I didn't explain what a center is, so let me do that. Now, when you look at a human design chart, there are nine geometric shapes consisting of squares and triangles. Each of those shapes is called an energy center. Now, I want to talk about the significance of human design when it comes to your relationships. Understanding these centers is beneficial for how to be seen, heard, understood, valued, loved, and supported in your relationship. And here's some examples of how they impact various aspects of your partnership. The first one is communication styles with a defined throat center. If you or your partner have this center defined, communication is clear and expressive. This might the person with the divine. The person with the defined throat center might lead conversations very naturally. Someone with an open throat center, though, might struggle with being heard. They will often adapt their communication style based on who they're interacting with. The throat center can be found by looking at your human design chart. And it's the third square from the top. So you'll have two triangles at the top, and then the next one is the throat center. When it comes to emotional dynamics, having a defined solar plexus indicates a consistent emotional experience. This means that your predictable emotional responses are a gift and that you process and learn through how you feel. People with an open solar plexus are more likely to absorb and amplify the emotions of others, which leads to heightened sensitivity and emotional ups and downs. The solar plexus is represented by the rightmost triangle at the bottom of the chart. Next is compatibility. A relationship where one partner has defined centers while the other has corresponding open centers can possibly create a complementary dynamic. The defined partner provides stability to their partner, while the open partner offers adaptability and flexibility. That in and of itself is complementary, but this is also where issues can occur. Here's an example. If you have a defined heart center, which is represented by the small triangle towards the middle of the chart on the right hand side. If you have a defined heart center, which m indicates a consistent sense of self worth, motivation and willpower, and your partner has an open heart center, which creates variable self esteem, motivation and willpower. When you understand this, it can help you support each other better. The issue, though, is that most couples don't know about human design, and we're reacting to each other in day to day interactions at a personal level, at a what's wrong level, and how can I fix my partner? Or how can I make them change? But when you look at human design and understand each other's charts, you then have something to work with. You then have something that's accepting of each other's energy and nature. And you then can create common ground and find solutions, not from a problem mindset, but from a human design and relationship mindset. Exploring these energetic dynamics allows you and your partner to navigate your interactions with greater empathy and awareness. Now let's talk about leveraging dominant channels for effective communication. A channel is shown in your chart by the pathways that connect the geometric shapes to each other, and you can have open or defined channels. Dominant channels play a crucial role in shaping communication patterns within relationships. When one partner has a defined channel that the other does not, it creates a dynamic where the person with the defined channel tends to lead or dominate and take over in conversations or other areas of interaction. When you understand the dominant channels in your charts, then you and your partner can start navigating communication more effectively. Here are some tips on how to leverage your dominant channels. First, identify them. Use your human design relationship chart to pinpoint which channels are dominated. To pinpoint which channels are dominant in your relationship. When you click the button to create your chart, you will need to create your own chart. Create your partner's chart and then create the connection or the relationship chart so you will have three views of the charts. Once you've done that, you can start to recognize where one partner consistently takes the lead and you can discuss whether or not this causes issues in your relationship. You can then make agreements where collaboration and communication is needed in those areas, along with those that you both agree. One partner is trusted to manage with or without updating the other partner. A, clue for when to look for the dominance in the relationship is when you're running into resistance or you're frustrated, or you don't feel like you've got choice or freedom. It's usually when you have these emotional ups and downs or something feels off in the relationship. That's usually a place to look or you're feeling overpowered, or one partner is making decisions without you and that bothers you. There's several other examples, but that should give you a start. The second thing you can do to leverage dominant channels is acknowledging and accepting each other's strengths and weaknesses. I believe in working with our strengths and not working on our weaknesses. I have said for many years, why would I want to invest time and energy on something I am not good at? What if I just accept, hey, I am not good at that. Let me find someone that can help me with that. because they're great at it and can get it done much faster. It's not something I want to spend time working on. Unfortunately, society and work culture has created this mindset of working on your weaknesses, and I am not an advocate for that unless it's an area that you want to improve in. That's a different story. Except that having a dominant channel doesn't make one person better than the other or superior. It's about understanding each other's natural inclinations rather than pushing each other to change in ways that are against each other's nature. Pushing each other to change in ways that are contrary to their design. For me, this is the number one reason why couples experience things getting better in their relationship for a short while and then things going back to the way they were. Again. Use this knowledge to balance interactions by asking the partner with the dominant channel to guide when their strengths are needed by you, and you have to do the asking. There's a whole section about how to make requests and how to ask. In my relationship toolkit, I will drop a link here. In my better relationships toolkit, I invite you to get a copy of the toolkit because it's very complimentary to human design. And I will be adding a whole section to the toolkit for human design, which you will be able to get a copy at no additional charge. You can pick up your copy of the toolkit by going to toolkit dot drdarhawks.com the third way to leverage each other's dominant channels is to create space for expression. Ensure you both feel heard by consciously making room for each other's input, especially when one tends to dominate. For example, if you have a dominant channel, practice active listening and invite your partner's perspective and opinions and requests. Ask for them and then include some of the things that they have said in the decision making or in the path forward. In a collaborative way, mutual respect and adaptation is another way to leverage each other's dominant channels. Respect each other's communication styles and adapt when necessary. When you don't feel heard, seen, understood, supported, or valued, it usually shows up in how you listen and communicate, the timing of the communication, your type, your profile, and whether you're including your partner in decision making. Oftentimes, partners think that they're independent and they go and make decisions and don't inform and share with their partner thinking it's inconsequential. It's their decision to make. But when you're in a relationship, communication and sharing is important. If your partner says, I don't need to know that. If you're making decisions about your work or about things that don't impact us or our relationship or our finances or other areas of life, you can make an agreement together around which areas to inform and share with each other and which ones not to. For the partner with the dominant channel, ensure that you are communicating frequently, and asking for your partner's input. Be sure you take their input into consideration and make agreements in the path forward that are understood and fully accepted and supported by both of you. The fifth way is to have regular check ins. If you've been listening to my podcast or been in my world, you know that I am an advocate for check inside schedule regular talks about how your interactions and communication feels for both of you. When you have these conversations, they only need to be five to ten minutes once a week where you're talking about how did we communicate this week? Did it work for you? Were there any challenges? Were there any misunderstandings? How can I improve so that we both feel seen, heard, understood, valued, loved, and supported? You can ask these questions to each other. Do you feel seen, heard, understood, valued, loved, and supported by me? Are there any examples, scenarios or areas in our life together that you don't? If so, please share them with me so that we can find common ground and make agreements on how we will manage those going forward. This will help you in adjusting your approaches with each other as needed, ensuring that neither of you feels overwhelmed or sidelined. And doing this on a regular basis, instead of waiting until something blows up and is this big thing to handle, will actually help you avoid that from happening and keep it from happening. Understanding and leveraging each other's dominant channels can truly transform how you communicate and cultivate deeper understanding and connection with each other. Now let's talk about navigating compromised channels with compassionate awareness. Compromised channels in a human design, relationship charts happen when one partner has a complete channel and the other only has half. These channels often represent potential areas of friction or misunderstandings in relationships. Here are the potential challenges. When you have a compromised channel, there's an imbalance of power. The partner with the complete channel could dominate the relationship, which can lead to feelings of inadequacy or frustration. Miscommunication. Different perspectives can result in disagreements or misinterpretations, making effective communication difficult and not feeling seen, heard, or understood. It can create emotional stress. The imbalance can cause emotional strain, as one partner might feel undervalued, not supported, and taken for granted. Here are some strategies for navigating conflicts through the wisdom that the compromise channel gives you. Implementing compassionate awareness can mitigate the challenges posed by the compromise channels. First, have open dialogue. Encourage honest conversations about how each of you perceives your energetic interactions. Remember, I said it's not personal, it's just the energy between the two of you. And your human design chart gives you the themes for what that energy is. That's something you can work with together. Use I statements to express your feelings and avoid blaming language. Engage in active listening. Make an effort to truly understand your partner's point of view. Reflect back what you hear to ensure clarity and mutual understanding. Clearly define personal and relationship boundaries to that will help you prevent overstepping. Respect each other's need for space and individual expression and each other's boundaries. Build empathy. Engage in activities that promote empathy, like role reversal exercises, and consistently acknowledge and validate each other's emotions and experiences instead of dismissing or disagreeing with them. It's much easier to just say, wow, I had no idea you felt that way. Thank you for sharing instead of, no, that's not true, or you shouldn't feel that way, or I'm sorry you feel that way. That's my favorite one, that one creates more arguments than I think anything else that we can say in the moment. Role reversal exercises involve partners switching roles to gain a, deeper understanding of each other's perspectives and experiences. This practice is powerful and it enhances empathy and communication by allowing each other to see things from their partner's point of view and from their partner's experience. It builds greater awareness, understanding, acceptance, and compassion for each other. An example of role reversal from my own life and relationship would be when I was the one that mowed the grass. I just really love being out there and using a push mower. Even though we had a riding mower, it gets steps in. It just feels really good to me to do that. And at the house we were living in, there was a significant hill in the back and the front yard. Well, I hurt my back and my neck, and I had incredible inflammation for several weeks. And the grass was pretty tall. It had to be cut. So my husband went out to use the push mower. I, think he might have used the riding mower, I don't remember which, but he recognized this is a lot of work. And while I was recovering, he hired somebody to take care of the yard work. So I think it's great that he did that. And we continued to outsource that work, which freed up a lot of time for me to do things in the house and do things that were more joyful. But that's an example to give you an idea of how role reversal works. Like he had complete understanding and empathy of what it's like to take care of the yard work. By recognizing and addressing compromised channels with compassionate awareness, you can transform potential challenges into opportunities for growth and deeper connection, because you will have the awareness of the energetics in your individual charts and that of your relationship. Now, let's talk about electromagnetic channels for creating a more balanced relationship. In a couple's chart, electromagnetic channels show the specific areas where each partner's energies come together to form a complete channel. That means you have half and your partner has the other half defined. These channels are important because they reveal how partners complete each other, promoting balance and support in the relationship. So when it's defined, you will see you have half colored in and your partner has the other half colored in. Creating a complete channel, when one partner's reaching gate, that's what I call when you have half of the channel or the path, it's a reaching gate. The numbers in the geometric shapes on your chart represent gates that open and close. You can kind of think of it that way. I'm not going to talk about that now. I'll go into that in another podcast. But when one partner's reaching gate connects with the other partners, it creates a full electromagnetic channel. This interaction brings a feeling of completeness and cooperation and acceptance. It's like an ah We get each other and it enhances both of your strengths. In areas such as creativity or emotional understanding, these channels lead to improved communication and teamwork. For example, if one of you is great at coming up with the ideas while the other one is great at putting them into action, your combined efforts will result in successful projects and shared goals. Each end of the channel has its own strengths and challenges, which is why electromagnetic channels can be fully collaborative in creating results. It does require looking at each other's strengths and recognizing that if one partner has strength, has strength a and the other has strength b. Not comparing the effort it takes to do either. It could seem that one partner takes less time, takes less effort than the other. But when you're leveraging each other's strengths, you're not looking at it that way. I invite you to not look at it that way. I invite you to look at it from the perspective of their energy is activating the energy in you, and by doing that, they are using their strengths to do their part and you're using your strengths to do your part. Electromagnetic channels often highlight where partners naturally support and uplift each other, contributing to a harmonious relationship dynamic. They can help you feel seen, heard, understood, valued, loved, and supported within your partnership. While they are beneficial, electromagnetic channels can also bring hidden challenges if not managed with awareness. The same areas that create connection could also become points of dependency or even conflict. For instance, relying too much on one partner for emotional support might put too much responsibility and create weariness for emotional well being on that partner. Understanding electromagnetic channels allows you to use the potential for creating energetic harmony while also being careful about maintaining individual balance within your relationship. Recognizing both the strengths and challenging aspects will ensure that you navigate them when they show up in your life with greater understanding, empathy, and respect for each other. We're going to talk about cultivating empathy through human design insights now. Empathy truly is the foundation of any healthy relationship. By understanding and hearing and appreciating your partner's unique human design energetic personality, you can cultivate a deeper sense of empathy within your partnership. Empathy in relationships allows you to connect with your partner on an emotional level, which many couples crave that deeper emotional connection. It involves not just understanding their feelings, but also responding with compassion and support. Human design provides a comprehensive understanding of each person's characteristics, preferences, and tendencies. By familiarizing yourself with your partner's design, you can gain insights into their and your intrinsic motivations and challenges. For example, generators might need more time to respond to questions or decisions while projectors may need and require recognition for their contributions. A manifestor could appreciate having the freedom to initiate actions without constant interference, whereas a reflector might need an environment that supports their reflective and introspective nature. This shared understanding builds an environment of patience and support while minimizing misunderstandings. Human design insights empower both partners to look beyond superficial behaviors and identify the underlying design shaping those actions. This enhanced empathy contributes to building a supportive, nurturing relationship where both individuals feel acknowledged and appreciated. Here are some practical techniques to deepen your emotional bond using human design principles engaging in activities together based on your human design charts can create intimacy and strengthen your bond. Here are some practical techniques have some chart reviewing sessions spend time together reviewing each other's human design charts with your relationship coach who uses human design to help couples and individuals with their relationships. Or you can do this solo and look online. There's lots of material. Sometimes it can be conflicting and you could go down several rabbit holes. But if you're a researcher, for example, or an investigator type, and you love doing that, then by all means go for it. And remember to use your strategy and authority, which I will talk about in another podcast, so that you are making decisions about what resonates for you and what doesn't. So that you let go of what doesn't and keep what does. As you're doing your research, discuss the unique aspects of each chart and how they play out in your relationship. This can lead to deeper understanding and appreciation. Spend time in daily reflection, either through journaling where you're writing about your interactions and feelings towards each other, and reflecting on how your designs influence those moments, and you can share these reflections with each other weekly, facilitating open communication and emotional connection. Participate in meditation and visualization exercises. Joint meditation using guided meditations that focus on aligning your energy based on your charts is a great way to connect. Have visualization exercises where you visualize harmonious scenarios where both of you where both of your strengths are highlighted. The next one is role reversal exercises. These are extremely powerful. Experiment with swapping roles or tasks in certain situations to better understand each other's perspectives. For example, if one partner typically leads conversations based on a dominant channel, try allowing the other partner to take the lead. Have customized date nights. Plan activities to cater plan activities that cater to both partners types and profiles. A generator might enjoy an active outing, while a projector might prefer a more relaxed, intimate setting. The generator can show support by participating in relaxed, intimate setting date nights, while the projector can also enjoy active outings and alternating those is a healthy thing to do. Participate in conflict resolution workshops or hire a relationship coach that uses human design to help you make sense of the conflict very quickly and work with you to identify solutions that can be easy to implement because they don't go against your nature. You can also attend workshops or online courses that offer tools for conflict resolution tailored to your human design types. Creative collaborations take on projects that leverage both your strengths. This could be anything from art projects to planning events together, but they ensure both of you feel valued and connected. These exercises not only promote deeper connection, but also encourage ongoing personal growth in the relationship framework of human design principles. Now let's talk about nurturing personal growth in the relationship. Personal growth through human design can be a transformative experience with your partner. By embracing the lessons offered by each other's designs, you create a space where you both can thrive individually and collectively. Here are some ways how to be seen, heard, understood and supported in your relationship with human design. First, recognize each other's individual strengths. Each human design type and profile has their unique strengths. Celebrate these qualities in your partner and yourself. Create an environment where you both feel valued and understood. Secondly, embrace the differences. Understand that differences in design are opportunities for growth. They are also opportunities for acceptance and opportunities to stop trying to change the person who has the difference or them trying to change you because it's different. Embrace the uniqueness you each have and bring to the relationship. Reflect on how these differences can complement each other and enhance your relationship. Thirdly, support each other's journey. Encourage personal development by supporting your partner's human design journey. Whether it's through new hobbies, career goals, or self improvement activities, being a supportive partner can amplify growth. Fourthly, communicate openly. Use insights from your human design charts to facilitate open and honest communication. Discuss your needs, expectations and boundaries transparently because that can lead to mutual understanding and respect. And lastly, create shared goals. Sure, you can have individual goals, but couples that don't have shared goals tend to drift apart over time. So make sure you're regularly creating shared goals that you work on on a weekly basis. Together. Align your individual growth paths with the shared goals. This creates a sense of unity while allowing room for individual and personal achievements, and celebrate the steps you're taking towards that goal in addition to accomplishing the goal. Oftentimes I find that couples and individuals celebrate once they've accomplished the goal, but not the journey they took to get there. Also, when you're ahead on the path towards a goal, talk about the challenges along the way. Your partner just might have strengths that you don't in helping you bring them forward and into fruition and reality. By focusing on these aspects, you nurture not only the relationship but also your personal growth and lastly, participate in continuous exploration. It really is the journey towards harmonious co creation with your partner. Using your human design as a guide applying human design principles in relationships is an ongoing process that requires dedication from both of you. Make a commitment to understanding and leveraging your human design and your relationship chart so that you can have deeper connection and mutual growth. Seek professional support when needed. Human design coaching session focused coaching sessions focused on using human design tools can offer valuable insights into how to be seen, heard, understood and supported in your relationship. Use resources like this free human Design connection chart and the report that I will provide you with at no charge to continually explore your relationship dynamics. You can go get your chart at chart dot drdarhawks.com. navigating through your human design relationship journey together enriches both personal and joint experiences, fostering a harmonious co creation. Embrace the continuous exploration of human design and relationships for a thriving partnership. If you're interested in learning more about human design for the betterment of your relationship, please contact me to get your questions answered or for a dive into your charts. I am here for you. I love human design. I'm still learning as I share with you and we will learn together as we take a dive into your charts. Contact me by going to drdarhawks.com and click on the contact link on the top right and you can send me an email or schedule some time on my calendar for a discovery session. I hope this was insightful to you, intriguing and you learn more about human design and I look forward to connecting with you in a discovery session or in the next podcast.

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